Should I Stay Or Should I Go?🚪
A common refrain I hear is that someone’s full-time job is ‘draining their soul’ and they want out.
That’s typically followed by a list of reasons why they haven’t left and may not.
Those reasons tend to include financial fear, lack of time and energy to look elsewhere, sunk cost fallacy (‘I’ve already invested so much here that I might as well stay’), woes about the job market and/or starting a business, and concern that maybe the grass isn’t greener.
Those might all be true.
What is also true is that their mind, intuition, and body are screaming at them that despite those things, something has to change….Which is scary.
Our brains crave comfort and security. So on top of feeling depleted, the brain pulls out its bag of tricks to keep you ‘safe’ and stuck in the same situation.
And thus continues the vicious cycle of feeling ‘soul-sucked’, exhausted, wanting more, and feeling trapped.
The good news is that it doesn’t have to be like this and there are plenty of ways to work with your brain to support the future that your intuition, mind, and body know is available to you.
I’d love for you to consider in what situation(s) you’re staying because the ‘costs’ to leave feel too high, all the while, the costs of staying are potentially greater.
I’m not asking you (yet) to do anything about that. Start by identifying those situation(s).
If you’re open to it, dig a level deeper and list out all the reasons you know you should go.
Then list out the reasons why you’re not ready to or feel you ‘can’t’.
There isn’t a right answer and you’re the one who has to live with your choice so it’s up to you to decide what you’re willing to endure to stay or move on.
If getting to where you want to be was easy, everyone would be there. It may take pain and/or sacrifice in the short term. The alternative may be the ongoing continuation of how you feel now.
Which do you prefer?
If it’s leaving, what are you willing to do about it?
If it’s staying, is there anything you can change to improve the situation (for example: your relationship to it, what you say ‘yes’ to, etc)?