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if you ever compare yourself to the traits of others you admire and it leads to the erasure of some of your unique traits and/or confusion or stagnation, then this conversation is for you.
in this episode of the inprocess podcast, my co-host kimberlin shares about the anxiety she felt on her recent birthday when her head swirled with 'have to's', 'shoulds' and 'musts'.
Read Morewhen is it okay to speak your mind? when should you bite your tongue? how do you account for the shades of grey on the spectrum in the middle? and what are the potential consequences of both?
Read Morefriendships: there's so much we don't discuss culturally around the nuances of this essential type of relationship (yet, studies agree that they are key to our fulfillment, happiness, and well-being).
said differently: the quality of our lives is deeply intertwined with the quality of our relationships. so, i'd venture to say that it's worth doing some deeper investigation into the state of our friendships. that's precisely what i open up about it in this episode of the inprocess podcast.
Read Moreare you truly seen by the people who matter to you most? do you want to be? what’s the benefit of letting them in in this way? what are the drawbacks?
in the latest episode of the inprocess podcast, my co-host kimberlin shares openly about her struggles, growth, and outcomes she’s seen as she stopped trying to be who she thinks she ‘needs to be’ or what she suspects people expect her to be, and instead, chooses with intention when and with whom she wants to give them the privilege of seeing her full and true self (and receive the gifts that come to her when she does).
Read Morei read over 70 books in 2023 and admittedly, most were average (which fundamentally and statistically, makes sense). therefore, this year's roundup is shorter than usual (which, perhaps, will make it easier for you to choose if any are worth a read for you).
what hasn't changed is my penchant for non-fiction and the following genres specifically: business, psychology, and personal development. also note that many of these books didn't release in 2023, that's simply when i read them.
Read Morethis season can be a welcome time to reflect and use those insights to look ahead. as i prepare to hunker down for maternity leave, i’m doing a lot of the same. i invite you to do one (or both) of the following prior to the new year:
Read Moreif you’ve been conditioned in any way to put more emphasis on the external (how things look) than the internal (how things feel), then this episode is for you (and i can relate). if you ever wonder how to cultivate your inner knowing and self-trust… this episode is also for you.
Read Moreyesterday was my 40th birthday. a moment in time that many have conjoined in their minds with certain milestones and expectations.
i didn’t have those, per se. but what i did have in no way resembled how it transpired.
what i mean is that i was 32 weeks pregnant… a statement (i say with no hyperbole) i never thought i’d say.
Read Morebefore every session i have with coaching clients, i send them a unique set of thought prompts to consider as they prepare for our time together. i’d like to offer some of those to you today, too, as i know that we all have the answers we seek within. sometimes we just need to be asked the right question and slow down enough to be honest with ourselves about the answer.
Read Morecan you tell the difference between intuition and fear? often, the two show up in ways that make it difficult to know the difference (yet, it’s very doable to get to know the subtle distinctions). it’s important to develop this skill if you want to make better, more aligned, less delayed decisions.
Read Moreyou read that correctly: i'm pregnant! brendan and i are expecting a baby girl in january.
i'm doing a lot behind-the-scenes in my business to prepare. it's been a unique season that's inviting me to get super focused on what's essential and what can be delegated/outsourced/removed altogether.
i'm asking questions of myself like (which are great ones for you to consider asking yourself, too, no matter your current life circumstances):
Read Morewe've been told since we were kids that you are the company you keep. but have you considered that your bank account is also impacted by said company?
the people with whom you surround yourself impact your reality. it's no coincidence that friends' habits and behaviors influence each other's health, weight, goals, drive, and yes, even income.
the topic of money can be needlessly taboo, so i sat down with new york times #1 best-selling author jen sincero to discuss money, friendship, and much more. she breaks down for us some of the lessons she shares in her book you are a badass at making money.
Read Morein the final episode of season 1 of inprocess, kimberlin and i discuss the chasm between how we view ourselves versus how others see us.
we also talk about the spectrum of vulnerability, why all vulnerability is not created equal, and how i’ve used offering it as a safe hiding place (that looked ‘authentic’ and ‘brave’ from the outside.)
Read Morein this month's episode of inprocess, kimberlin and i reconsider this idea and ask:
what if you don't need to fix anything about yourself? and/or what if you don't need to ingest anything else to grow (now or in general)? (these aren't necessarily the answers on which we land. you'll need to tune in to hear what we make of these questions.)
while it may seem odd to say that and then immediately suggest you listen to the episode, i'm okay with that because two seemingly opposite things can co-exist.
Read Morewhen it comes to marketing, do you ever feel like you’re throwing spaghetti at a wall, hoping something will stick? chasing all of the new trends and shiny objects? not sure where to put your money and effort which leads to scattered action or no action at all?
i’ve made pretty much all of the mistakes one can make over the last 14 years of my entrepreneurial journey and rather than regale you with them, i reached out to my friend and marketing expert margo aaron, founder of that seems important, a site that explores the intersection of marketing, psychology, and entrepreneurship (because she herself is an expert in each of these arenas).
Read Moreoutcomes > hours. i hope to be able to convince you of this by the end of this email.
why? because if you’re looking to create more reliable revenue in your business, this question from abby (and my subsequent reply) will offer some insights for you:
“i've recently become an independent contractor (just over a year ago) and have been trading time for money...now i'm at a point where i'd like to increase my impact and income, and i am stuck on how to deliver this in a different model. how do i move to more of a contract-based model (with the added complication of not having a set of services, but my work right now is more about doing what is necessary/needed).” - abby h
Read Moreif you’ve ever created something and then hesitated to promote it because you didn’t want to come off as it being all about you….then today’s question from todd will resonate and my response will have some insights for you
Read Morehave you ever entered a physical or virtual space and held back because you were thinking:
i have nothing to offer in this environment.
who am i to be here?
is there a cost to showing up as myself?
i’m in a period of transition and i don’t know how to introduce myself.
how do i make real, meaningful connections with the people i’m meeting?
if so, you’re far from alone. in fact, my podcast co-host, kimberlin bolton, and i have a very candid conversation about her feelings about this while she was in a marked period of career and identity transition.
Read Moretoday’s question from asa in sweden may not pertain to you directly, but i have a hunch that whether or not you plan to shut down your company, there’s learning in this lesson for you, too. she asks:
“i have decided to shut down my life coaching business (after 5.5 years) and focus my efforts on my passion project. i started a podcast and am enjoying the process and learning more and meeting new cool people who have opted out of the rat race and sharing my journey and learning from others. i know you have shut several businesses down in the past and i guess my question is how do i do this?”
Read Morelike it or not, your reputation matters. why? because people are tied to the opportunities you're seeking (and those about which you don't even know exist but are available to you).
i want you to have (or keep) a reputation that speaks for you and opens doors on which you didn’t have to knock (without succumbing to perfectionism, people-pleasing, self-flagellation, or anything else that feels out of character or authenticity for you).
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